{disappointment}

I'm sure that everyone has experienced it at one point in life. Whether it be big or small, it can change someone's day, attitude or entire outlook on life.  You can be disappointed in decisions that you make, decisions that others make, situations that occur, news you hear on TV, or even the food that you eat.  Today, for me, it's people that I'm disappointed in.  Not everyone, and probably not those of you who are reading this.  (But maybe it is you! Eek!)  It makes me sad that some people feel the need to bring others down.  I recently found out that I lost a friend a year ago due to the unhappiness of someone else and the threats that person made if our friendship continued.  Why?  Why are you so unhappy that you feel the need to control others' lives?  It makes my heart sad that you can't find your own happiness that you have to rain on other people's parades.  I wish that everyone had peace of mind and peace of heart, but unfortunately they don't.  I make it my personal goal to, each day, make myself happy and one other person happy.

Making myself happy is normally pretty easy; a delicious cup of coffee, a yummy chocolate bar, a new sweater, pretty nail polish on my toes, a good hug, or homemade cookies.  Lately, my favorite thing is to spend time with a friend.  Whether it be getting breakfast, talking on the phone, sending photos to one another, girl time over dinner, or simply running errands with a friend, I can count on being happy.  I love my friends, male and female, old and new, I think I'm pretty lucky in the ones that have stuck by me and the ones that I have found recently.

Now, trying to make other people happy.  Sometimes it's really simple, give them the things that make me happy!  Although simple some of the time, there is one key in making someone else happy: get to know them.  Get to know their favorite food, favorite holiday, favorite color, guilty pleasure, and indulge in those things!  Getting to know people is one of my favorite activities.  It gives me the insight to make them happy!

We have come full circle!  Get friends, weed out the bad ones, get to know the good ones, be happy, spread happy.

Oh gosh, that was so easy!  Anyone can do it.  Remind yourself of those steps, tell your friends of those steps, dare I say, tell your enemies!  (That may be easier said than done...)

Did I mention that guns make me happy too?!

-be happy-

{take it to the face}

I don't really understand why some people want to ruin other people's happiness.  Don't you think it's crazy?  If I have done nothing to ruin your happiness, please don't ruin mine.  As you know, I want to be happy!  Recently, and not just to myself, there has been a trend of not being straight forward.  It's a version of being honest, with yourself and with others.  If you have a problem with someone, it's okay to take it up with that person, especially if you are going to talk to other people about it and spread gossip.  Now, don't just run out and find that person and tell them what's on your mind, that might not be the most tactful thing to do.  Think about it.  Think about how you can say your beef constructively, nicely and calmly.  There is no use (most of the time) to speak your mind if it's not done the right way.  (Just to clarify, yes, sometimes you have to go 'freak-nasty' on some people; for your good and possibly for theirs.)  Take your time and decide exactly what you want to say and exactly how you are going to say it.  Think about how they might react, positively and, more important, negatively.

If you are going to have a face to face confrontation, it doesn't need to be a blow out or a love fest.  It needs to be practical.  It needs to makes a difference, hopefully.  You need to be nice in order to expect the same in return.  This also doesn't mean that you need to speak your mind to everyone who talks about you behind your back.  My rule is to only confront those whose words hurt you, ruin your reputation, mess with your family, or make your loved ones believe them.  If it doesn't fit into these categories, complain about it to your closet friends or write a blog about it!  Get it off your chest some how, it's not good to keep everything bottled up.

This was my way of getting it off my chest, so please, if you have something to say about me, something that I've said about you, somehow I've wronged you, please say it to my face.  If you want me to do something differently, or to not do something, say it to my face.  If you want the truth about something, ask me to my face.  I promise I'm not that scary and take most everything well.  I hope you find your happiness and please let me continue to grow mine.  I only wish you the best of luck and the happiest life that you can have.

-be happy-

{seriously}

This word has so many meanings, especially in my life,  -- You want me to do what?  Seriously? -- I want to only eat chocolate for dinner, seriously. -- Seriously, that was the truth. -- I use this word often.  I, in fact, love this word because of it's various meanings.  I haven't shared myself with you in a while and I think it's time to bring it back.  Time for me to vent, rant, hurt, love, live.  Sometimes the world can blow my mind.  If you know me, you know that I perpetually strive to be happier, to bring joy to other people lives, simply, to make the world a better place.  I don't need to make a global impact on society, I just want to make one person's life better or to bring one smile a day.


You're bringing me down, seriously.

I love my husband, I love the way he provides for me, I love the way he treats me, I love the fun we have together, I love what he stands for, I love that he loves me.  I am secure in my marriage and know that we are meant to be together.  That being said, I like to have friends.  Younger friends, older friends, male friends, female friends, group hang-outs, or one-on-one dinners, I love to have friends.  I think this is due to my personality.  I feed off of social interaction, positive social interaction. Lately it seems as if my personality is giving the wrong impression.

I am not cheating on my husband, I am not sleeping with that guy on the side, I am not having an affair with your husband, I am luring anyone in, I am not!

I wish that people would get to know me better instead of jumping to conclusions and spreading gossip.  I used to (well, still do) get mad at people when I would hear these rumors but I think that my mind has to make a shift.   My mama taught me to love, and to love with all you have.  Love people for who they are and the joy that they can bring to my life.  She was right, friends are about happiness.  Love can bring that happiness.  I love my friends for so many different reasons.  I have to assume (yikes, never do that!) that these people might be insecure about themselves, in their own marriage, in their life, about their image, or they just aren't happy people; that's why these rumors seem to be the topic of discussion for them.  I have to pray that they find peace in their souls, that they learn how they can become happy.

So, if you see me post pictures with other men, it's just friendly love.  If you see me out in town having dinner, I just want to hang out with that friend.  If you even begin to think negative thoughts about my friendships, stop.  Just stop right there.  You clearly don't know me and my name shouldn't be in your mouth.  Leave me be.  I'm happy.  You need to find your own happiness.  I wish you did know me...ask me about it...let's go to lunch...get to know me.  I've let this bring me down long enough and now it's out there.  I hope all you haters read this, I hope you want to get to know me better, I hope that you want to be happy.

~Be Happy~